We don't have many rituals or rules in our dynamic.
But the ones we do have, have developed over time and
are very much part of our life.
I really enjoy them and Sir does too.
I have missed them, very much.
I've not been doing any of them for almost three-four weeks now.
Though I have rebelled and refused to follow our rituals
for a day ... from rare time to time, I've been pretty consistent
(except for this odd extended period)
for the past...
oh, say six months...
no - it's longer than that
maybe eight or ten
-just a minute, let me ask Sir -
HOLY SHIT...
He thinks it's been the better part of a year.
Dayam!
You know, he's right.
Now that I think about it...there are a couple of rituals
that I have been doing for about a year!
There are others that kind of come and go
or that I don't really see as rituals...more as rules.
But there are two rituals, that I have been picking back up...
in my effort to put my life back together.
They feel good.
Doing them helps me feel like I am serving.
They help me feel like I'm doing what HE wants.
I'm being good
and I'm really happy with that.
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What are our rituals....you ask.
(or not, in which case, don't read anymore)
Well these two that I'm writing about
aren't earth shattering or public or particularly sexy.
First,
Each morning after Sir gets dressed,
he sits in a chair beside the bed.
I get out of bed and sit on the floor at his feet.
I look up at him and he hands me his socks.
I lift each foot and set it on my leg and
one at a time, put them on each foot.
Then one at a time, I put on his shoes on,
sit each foot on the floor,
and tie each shoelace.
I love doing that - I love sitting at his feet.
I may experiment with kissing each shoe
and see if he likes that.
(hmmm....I'll let you know how that goes)
Second,
When Sir is ready to sleep...actually sleep,
in whatever position he sleeps in...on his back or side,
I reach one hand down and
my hand cups his balls
and my thumb and forefinger reach up
and holds his cock.
As he slowly drifts to sleep each night,
I cradle him and it comforts him
....and me.
fiona,
ReplyDeleteI really love these rituals that you have with Sir Q. Simple, but beautiful!
Hug,
joey
Thank you joey. I love them too!
Deletehugs,
fiona
What a wonderful way for both of you to start your day. Reinstating rituals is another step forward, my friend.
ReplyDeletehugs abby
I hope so abby. Slowly but surly :)
Deletehugs,
fiona
simply beautiful, fiona
ReplyDeleteThanks HS.
Deletehugs,
fiona
I love the idea of getting him ready in the morning and letting him know my attention is devoted to get him out the door in a loving and devoted way. That's awesome.
ReplyDeleteI love that too. My attention on him. I also start out my day in the right head space. That helps.
Deletehugs,
fiona
Those are lovely rituals, fiona. Thanks for writing about them. Sometimes I think that submission is just one approach to finding ways to be loving with each other, you know?
ReplyDeletelove,
sofia
Thanks sofia. IDK...I think we adored each other before I submitted...I'll adore him forever, and he me. I think right now, it just is what we both need.
Deletehugs,
fiona
Those are wonderful rituals. Sometimes I put on or take off my Master's shoes, and I love that, but it is not often enough to be a ritual for us.
ReplyDeleteIf you love it, have you thought of doing it more often...making it a ritual?
DeleteI love the service of that.
hugs,
fiona
Your second ritual is something I enjoy doing too, although I wouldn't call it a ritual for me, I do it often and I find it... comforting.
ReplyDeleteYour life will pull back together... One step at a time right?
I hope so, Misty...I hope my life will be put back together...NOW. I'm impatient that way =)
DeleteI do find holding him so comforting. It is ... a perfect way to fall asleep...eclipsed only by having his cock in my mouth or his fingers in me.
hugs,
fiona
That was beautiful :)
ReplyDeleteThank you slavemala.
Deletehugs,
fiona
we don't have rituals, per se, due to our being semi LDR. We do try to spend time together, and i have to text good morning and good night (and recently got to call HIM out on forgetting to say goodnight to me. :) ) but that's about it. Lovely that you have these things to hold on to, to share the love in a deeply personal way.
ReplyDeletenilla
You do have those rituals...those required tasks...as he TOOK YOU TO TASK for not doing it! I'm glad he pulled you up short when you forgot! It is wonderful to know you can count on Him!
Deletehugs,
fiona