Tuesday, April 16, 2013

Fantasies...Mine and Yours


Sofia had a post a bit back that included some fantasies.  

As I read hers fantasy, As I began to fantasize myself . . .

. . . it struck me.  My fantasies are so often similar to the ones that she has shared.   She's not the only blogger who has written fiction or fantasies that are similar to mine, though.

That then lead me to think about my fantasies.  I find it interesting that mine will change in location and in intensity and toys and other specifics, but at the heart, many of my fantasies are the same as they have been since I started having them.

The other thing that struck me is that I didn't really start fantasize until late in life, at least I think it was late in life.  It wasn't until...probably freshman year in college...that I really fantasized about anything sexually.

So, back to the fantasies.  The theme that most regularly appears in my fantasies is one of being objectified, used, or being trained in some way.  I am sure that part of the reason for this is my feelings of being an under-educated lover, my desire to be a good lover, my fear of not being a good enough lover.  Interestingly, Sir has NEVER made me feel this way, he has built me up tirelessly.  But, it is something that I worry about, nevertheless.

I adored - like TRULY ADORED Aisha's fantasy of her training school.  I have loved nilla's stories which can touch on being used or trained at dungeons, camps and other places.  Conina's stories which frequently involve a heavy dose of humiliation, objectification and being used.  Oh, YUM to these and many many more blogs that I read!!

So, why are my fantasies....like ALL of them....focused on these themes?  Why do I desire this?  Why does thinking of being used, being humiliated, being trained make me cum faster than...um...anything else?

There are all of these books out there on dream analysis and I want fantasy analysis!  I want to understand this part of me, this portion of my psyche....but I currently don't know how.

Do others fantasize about similar things?  Do you?  Do others fantasize about a wide variety of themes or do you fantasize about one theme track, as I do?

PLEASE share your thoughts!

20 comments:

  1. My fantasies are about there too. It's been a continuum of my sexual growth I guess. Started off as plain old sex, then girls, then threesomes, and so on but then it became real. Almost boring to fantasize about what was already done. It was big time spanking fantasies but now that I'm close to spanking, that's fading away and transforming into possible reality. Now it's exactly what you're saying. Maybe that'll stay fantasy for a few years and start to materialize. I don't think I actually want any of that in reality though.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing chickadee!

      I think you are so right, in terms of desiring what is still unknown or less-familiar. I certainly don't want all that I fantasize about to be real. I do however enjoy the fantasy and would love portions =)

      hugs,
      fiona

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  2. Yes, this girl has similar fantasies. Sometimes they even terrify me a little bit and often revolve around pretty severe pain and humiliation. Sometimes they are things one is even ashamed to admit to Daddy although he is always told about them eventually. Funny thing is, is that he is never bothered by them and we have both noticed that they all come back to loss of control. It seems that's what makes this slave tick. The more she hates it and is forced to endure the more the fantasy turns her on. It would be great to understand why but all one can do is accept it and be grateful Daddy likes it too. If you do ever figure it out please be sure to share.

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    1. It's funny how we all have different fantasies and yet they can be similar in nature. My Sir has never yet been bothered by my fantasies either. In fact, he is ALWAYS thrilled to have me share them with him. It's funny, though, even after all these years, they are embarrassing to me. Hmmm, I wonder why that is. Strange.

      Thanks for sharing DB.
      hugs,
      fiona

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  3. I have similar fantasies, although they changed over the last two years.
    I started fantasizing about sexual things very early, like 11 or 12. So, as I have gotten older, learned about different things, and have gone through different experiences, my fantasies change as well.

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    1. Thanks Julia, What do you fantasize about now? I appreciate you sharing. Ya, I can imagine that the 11 year old fantasies are different than they are now.

      Hugs,
      fiona

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  4. More and more, I fantasize about this same type of stuff. I tell H my fantasies, and then I come again. :)

    But will they ever be reality for us - even a small part of it? I am not sure actually. They are actually pretty scary to contemplate in real life.

    Nothing wrong with the fantasies though.

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    1. It's funny, I always feel a rush of embarrassment when I tell Sir about my fantasies. After this many years, you would think I'd be over that. He ALWAYS loves when I share them with him. Ya, there are some fantasies that I would love to come to reality, at least I think. There are some that I most assuredly do NOT want to be reality, but they are wonderful fantasies. It's complicated, huh?


      Hugs,
      fiona

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  5. I love reading fantasies. I like to write them too. I've been writing for years.... decades. My fantasies are very personal to me and I've been shy about sharing them for years. Reading other people's blogs has helped me out from under my stone. They are stories which represent what I desire, not what I want to happen in reality. I suppose that is what a fantasy means but I can't explain why I crave things which I would run away from in real-life. Regardless of content, there has always been the sense of domination in my fantasies, even before my sexual awakening, it's been there. So perhaps it is the emotional fantasy I yearn to happen in reality, not necessarily the story / event.

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    1. DF, that's just it for me too! I've ALWAYS had this desire for domination, to be controlled. I like your analysis...that's something i'll have to think about some more. Hmmmmm.

      I'm so excited to have found your blog!! YEA!!!

      hugs,
      fiona

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  6. fiona,

    Last night I attended a meeting run by a local group that dealt with the topic of sexual fantasies. The presenter, a hot female, discussed various fantasies of hers and asked the group to share their fantasy on an index card with no names. As she read each card, she encouraged the group to try to realize their fantasy.

    I have written a very long story about my fantasy that actually involves training a slave similar to the stories in The Marketplace series.

    Thank you for an interesting post.

    Hug,
    joey

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    1. Wow, there's a local group dealing with sexual fantasies? Do you think you will ever realize your story, or an inkling of it? So you wrote it, are you going to post it? I hope so!!!

      Fantasies are fascinating things. Something we desire, and yet don't want to necessarily actualize...or sometimes we do.

      Hugs,
      fiona

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  7. My fantasies started out non-sexual in nature. In them I was a slave, to a man, but not a sex slave. More of a follow him around and do whatever he said slave, with frequent corrections involving a crop or whip. Then those turned into sex fantasies, involving public humiliation, exposure, use, degradation with his friends. Most of my fantasies center around that still, with different background scenes; they change, but slowly.

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    1. When did you start fantasizing? Mine seem similar to what you said yours have morphed to...following a consistent theme with different scenes. They are fascinating to think about and loose our selves in sometimes, aren't they?

      Thanks for sharing. Oh, btw, I've been meaning to ask...what does ancila_ksst stand for or come from?

      Hugs,
      fiona

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  8. I've never been one to fantasize a whole lot, but sharing them is something Musicman has been requiring of me lately. That's hard for me, but also a huge turn on. Mine seem to be of the same theme most of the time and coincidentally are about the same theme as his. Don't know that we will ever make them come true, but once I get done blushing and hedging to get out of it, fun to share.

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    1. I know! It's so hard to verbalize them, to actually say what I am thinking! What I am fantasizing about. He's never been anything but supportive of my fantasies and we're both turned on by most of them...but my embarrassment remains. It is a gift to have the same fantasies as your Sir, though, isn't it?

      Thanks for sharing!
      hugs,
      fiona

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  9. you might want to read Erotic Mind by Dr. Jack Morin, it is a book on exactly this topic from an academic point of view but it will give you some excellent insights into what it all means.

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    1. Oh, I can't wait to go read! Thank you so much for sharing this!!

      So what do Dom's fantasize about Sir J?

      hugs,
      fiona

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  10. Hi, Fiona,

    I'm soooooo late to the party, but thank you so much for the shout-out - i love the idea that i helped inspire this post.

    You already know a bunch of my fantasies, and i do think we submissive women have similar themes, or at least some in common. i dont' think vanilla girls necessarily do, and i guess Domme's have 'em from the other side, right?

    hugs,

    sofia

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    1. You are never late...just fashionable!! You helped inspire the post, but fodder for more fantasies too!

      I wonder what vanilla girls fantasize about. As I've always been kinky in some respect, I don't know. I wonder what Doms & Domme's fantasize about. Hmmmm...

      hugs,
      fiona

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-fiona