Random Facts

So I have been off the grid for a bit.  I got my number from ancilla a while ago and haven't had the opportunity to write.  Sorry for my delay.

If you comment on this writing I will give you a number between 1 and 20 and you can share that many random facts about you if you wish.  There is no obligation if you don't wish to write about yourself!


ancilla at  A slave to Master has given me the number 17, so here are 17 somewhat rambling random facts about me:

hmmmmm....where to start?  First, I'll separate them into kinky and vanilla.

Vanilla:
1. I'm a very flexible person...not physically but in life.  I am a total fly by the seat of my pants and figure it out as I go kinda girl.  

2.  Contrary to what #1 says, I'm a fantastic planner when I want or need to be in part because I'm exceedingly methodical.

3.  I'm an extrovert who is becoming an introvert.  

4.  I have a keen mechanical/spacial mind.  While I didn't major in mechanical engineering, I certainly could have.  I fix things and build things all the time.  

5.  To that end, I am the person to generally wire things or build things in my house...not because my Sir can't, but because he's kind enough to let me because I nine times out of ten, I absolutely love doing it.

6.  I'm a fabulous problem solver and can think on my feet and think outside of the box.

7.  While many people think I'm really smart, I don't see myself as being very smart.

8.  While Sir says I'm beautiful, I do have a terrible self image.  I rarely think I look pretty....it's something He's helping me with.

9.  I love to travel and would love to go ANYWHERE with my Sir!!

Kinky:
10.  My favorite thing to be spanked with is either His Hand or a flogger.

11.  When I started out being a full time submissive (and not a switch), I didn't think I would ever love the service aspect of submission...I was wrong!

12.  I day-dream about being used...about Sir letting other's use me.  About Him allowing others to come and put me on my knees for a blow job, etc.

13.  He frequently fantasizes about letting others use me!

14.  He really wants to get a choker for me to wear as a collar every day.

15.  I really hate chokers, but I frequently wear a silver collar (the kind that sits fairly close but that opens in the back.  I wish he would like something like that instead (but he doesn't).  hmmmm.

16.  He LOVES me to wear cupless bras or no bra.  I'm slowly getting more comfortable with that.  

17.  I am still SHOCKED anyone actually cares about what I write...I am not a writer, not eloquent, write about nothing important - but worse than that....write about our love life.  But I am so very grateful for EVERY comment I have EVER gotten on this blog.  They have been so kind and supportive and interesting and let me know you are there.  It makes this whole blogland experience feel like a conversation instead of just words on the screen. 

Electricity Question

OK…so I am seriously looking to 
ask for,
maybe hint at,
downright demand
scratch that last one,
politely request,
beg, plead and whine for…

a violet wand type device.

Yes, I don't have any experience
Hell Yes, I may really hate having asked for it

But…

Please, if you have ANY ideas of 
brands that you've heard of,
negative feedback 
or positive feedback
attachment ideas

PLEASE let me know.

I will let you know if I get one and…
give all the juicy details =)

Sir's Answers Kenzie, abby, DelFonte and joey

1. Please feel free to ask more questions or follow-up.  I'm also happy to ask my Sir, as I know you rarely actually hear from him…as he doesn't read or write anywhere in blogland.  But I can ask and relay information.

Kenzie asked and We'll answer:

Do either of you have a fantasy you haven't explored yet, that you want to?

fiona:  Well my fantasy that we haven't explored yet is for me to be commanded by Sir to be used by others…either spanked or beaten or used sexually (giving blow jobs,etc.)  I would love for Sir to watch or hold me down or tie me down - but it would have to be under his supervision or his command. Ya, I feel totally perverse putting that down…but it's honest.

Sir: To have my sub join in a menage a trios with another woman.
(fiona:  Oh PLEASE!!!  I would adore that!!!)

abby asked and I'll answer:

I have a question for you from Master....He said something about turnabout being fair play...

I assume you have been spanked before cumming?...Have you ever been spanked after cumming? Is there a difference in your sensitivity, in the feel of the spanking?

I can't remember if I have been or not.  Isn't that sad.  I think this is something that we'll have to explore when time permits!!!  For some reason I have to think I have experienced that.  I would imagine that I can't remember, because my brain is typically fairly scrambled after cumming.  I would imaging I would be much more likely to cum from being spanked if I had cum already.  I'm a prime-the-pump and watch it blow kinda girl.  Once I've cum, I'm much easier to cum again, and again, and again =)

DelFonte asked and He'll answer:

Can't resist asking Sir a couple of questions :)

If you had a dungeon, what furniture would you put in it?

And if you could 'train' Fiona in such a room, what would her first lesson be?

Sir:  I would put a home made rack.  This would look something like a sawhorse with padding.  Fiona would lay along the saw horse and I would bind her hands and feet on the legs.  Once I have her on my rack I would use every dildo in the house and fill all of her holes.  I love making her come with a dick gag in her mouth.  Once I had her satiated I would turn off all the lights and make her wait for my next visit.

(fiona:  OK, so reading that made me ridiculously horny!)

joey asked and He'll answer:

Can you ask Sir how he knows what you need and when you need it?

Sir:  The thing Fiona needs most is the release that comes with my dominance.  Once I have complete control of her she basically wants whatever I will give her.  My favorite thing to do is to make her ask for her punishment.  I love it when she begs for a spanking, nipple twisting or her dildo.

(fiona:  OK, so he's totally got my number!  I wish he didn't love making me beg for those things.  It's still so hard, and humiliating and difficult.  I wish he would just take whatever he wants regardless of what I want!)

subkitty (aka Hislovely), ancilla_ksst and abby's Answers

1. Please feel free to ask more questions or follow-up.  I'm also happy to ask my Sir, as I know you rarely actually hear from him…as he doesn't read or write anywhere in blogland.  But I can ask and relay information.

subkitty (aka Hislovely) asked and I'll answer:

(sorry I got the questioner wrong…my bad.  I really do appreciate your question subkitty!!!

I would like to ask how do you and Sir Q recover from times when life gets in the way of the dynamic or get in to a fight.

If possible, id like to ask SirQ the same question.

This is a great question.  Life gets in the way tooooooo fucking much!!! Holy cow!!  But…that's life =) So, what do we do.  Well, we adjust, I suppose.  Sir periodically doesn't give a shit whose around, he'll spank my bum (just a swat, but a meaningful one), or he'll casually pull my hair or he'll take me around the corner or upstairs or someplace out of sight and "reset".  But when the busies take over or the stress gets overwhelming it frequently takes this sort of "Reset"…a hard spanking or beating, strong words of ownership, and tightening the leash so to speak to get us back on the same page and back into balance.   When we get into a fight, after TTWD, they are short lived and more infrequent than they were before. It's amazing.  Sir is getting very good at putting his foot down and resetting us.  I am eternally grateful, there is so little time spent being pissy or frustrated or angry.  

ancilla_ksst asked and I'll answer:

What was the first implement that really scared you at the thought of it being used on you? And after (if) you tried it, was it as bad as you imagined or did you like it? Did your feelings on that change over time? If you had to pick one of his implements to fall in a black hole and never see again what would it be?

Hmmmm, first implement that really scared me.  Well…I'm trying to think back.  Long ago…first…I'm not sure my memory is that good. I would guess that the first implement that "scared" me would be wax - not a striking implement, but something he used ON me. It scared the living bejeezus out of me.  Especially when he dripped it on my nipples or when he has dripped it on my pussy.  I don't think it was as bad as I imagined and I did like it.  As time has gone on, although we don't use wax frequently, I do love it.  It still scares me, every time, but I know I can take it.  I also know I LOVE it.  I love the fact that I'm typically restrained when he does it, so I have no choice but to let go.  It's in the letting go, that I can truly find the absolute pleasure!  
Now the second part of her question is sooooo easy.  That motherfucking hairbrush would go away!!!! I don't even know if I care what my hair looks like that much that I wouldn't do away with all possible hair brushes.  They are evil when used against one's behind! 

abby asked and I'll answer:

College sweethearts......how long did you know each other before you started into the D/s....or were you both kinky from the beginning and it grew?

I was completely inexperienced when Sir and I started dating.  He was not.  Though, I don't know if he had much or any kink in his previous relationships.  But ours kind of started out right away.  We started with switching pretty quickly…like within the first month.  Spankings and toys and bondage came to our relationship early.  He is very adventurous and so am I.  I'm also fairly insatiable so…we're well suited to kink, I think.

Tom's Rose, Nilla and Ronnie's Answers

1. Please feel free to ask more questions or follow-up.  I'm also happy to ask my Sir, as I know you rarely actually hear from him…as he doesn't read or write anywhere in blogland.  But I can ask and relay information.

Tom's Rose asked and I'll answer:
Do you have a favorite movie?
Craziest place you and your hubby have gotten down to business?
Your biggest hurdle in TTWD when you first began?

Favorite movies:
I love movies!  Favorite movie probably depends on my mood…but here are some of my favs.  I adore Princess Bride, Pretty Woman, The Transporter, Frozen, The Heat (so freaking funny)

Crazies Place we've gotten down to business:  
hmmmmmm…maybe my husband's closet (in his Mom's house) when the house was filled with company after a funeral. Or there was the pool full of people at a wedding…In our defense, it was dark…The ocean in mid day in front of a beach full of people…The hot tub at 11:30pm the night before my wedding just before he left so he wouldn't see me the day of our wedding…ya, that's what I can come up with.  

Biggest hurdle in TTWD when we first began:
Well, as we were kinky for forever before we started labeling it or defining it, I'm not really sure.  I think one of the struggles I had when we first started NOT switching was maintaining my submissive attitude when I was so used to being snarky bitchy disrespectful.  I also really struggled with my guilt…feeling like Sir was missing part of himself and that he needed the submission he had give up to Top me.  


nilla asked and I'll answer:
would you ever see your role as slipping back into a Switch with your Sir? Would HE see that, now that he's been the Top for so long? and have you (or would you) play with others (a dungeon scene or something more private)?

Could I see our roles switching back to being switches?  Yes, I could see that.  We spent so so very long as switches, I could see a time that it just worked.  That said, Sir says it's forever, that we're never going back.  We'll see.  I hope we keep whatever role is appropriate so that we stay connected and that our relationship flourishes.  

As to the question of have or would I play with other's…the answer is no and yes.  I haven't ever played with others, other than a mutual friend spanking me once a very VERY long time ago upon Sir's request.  I would absolutely LOVE to play with other's or in front of others or both as long as Sir said it was ok.  Sadly I don't think it would ever happen, but I do think it is one of Sir's biggest fantasies as well…the thought of some guy playing with me on his command sends him sky high!

ronnie asked and I'll answer:
Who would you want to play the role of you in a movie?
Who would I WANT to play me…well that's a fun question.  I would WANT Minnie Driver or Julia Roberts or Nicole Kidman or wait, Melissa McCarthy because she's fucking hilarious!!!  But none of them look like me, I just like them!  Honestly, I'd want ME to play ME in a role of me in a movie =)
What country would you like to visit?
Well this one is equally easy and … not!  I would love to travel, ANYWHERE!  I love Love LOVE to travel!!!  I would go most anywhere.  I would LOVE to go to Germany, Switzerland, Peru, Ecuador, India, Japan, Australia, Wales, England on top of the countries I have already visited!!

Tori and Pearl's Answers

1. I will answer in a couple of posts.  Please feel free to ask more or follow-up.  I'm also happy to ask my Sir, as I know you rarely actually hear from him...as he doesn't read or write anywhere in blogland.  But I can ask and relay information.
2. Tori asked and I'll answer:  
   
   1) What fantasy/fantasies would you most like to make reality?

   I would love to be used…

   ok…

   so this is always tricky.  

   saying a fantasy puts a tiny bit of you out on the line and I hope others don't read this and just decide that I'm seriously way to psychotic…but here goes…

   specifically, I fantasize about Sir letting other's use my body for their pleasure.  He arranges it and at times they can use my mouth and tits to their pleasure…other times, he sits in a corner and tells me to be a good girl and lets someone else fuck me…use me.

   
   

   2) Have you tried anything (both of you) that upon trying realised it didn't match up to how you thought it would be IE you didn't or he didn't like it?

   I think over the years we have tried many things…once or twice, but not again.  Most of the time space or comfort was more of an issue than anything else.  We don't frequently fuck in a vehicle, in a tiny shower, on the floor because it's just not comfy and we don't have to.  
   
   
   

   3) How did you meet?

   We met a college.  We lived in the same dorm and I adored him…like seriously love at first sight!  It's silly and sounds totally childish…but it was - for me.  I worked my ass off to get him, though.  He was older than me and very popular and insanely brilliant!  
3. Pearl asked and I'll answer: 

   #1. Biggest irrational fear?

   Hmmmmm, irrational fear…I'm mostly afraid of loosing Sir.  Every time he leaves I feel a bit of angst.  I don't like the basement or the dark particularly.  =)
   

   
   

   #2. Spanking; for pleasure? and/or for punishment?

   Short answer, Yes.  Spanking is typically for pleasure, however he has punished me with wicked, non-sensual spanking and those hurt like hell…physically and emotionally.  But honestly, they're mostly all associated with positive energies/experiences.
   

   
   

Joey and Del's Answers

1. I will answer in a couple of posts.  Please feel free to ask more or follow-up.  I'm also happy to ask my Sir, as I know you rarely actually hear from him...as he doesn't read or write anywhere in blogland.  But I can ask and relay information.

   
   

   
   

   Joey asked and I'll answer:

   
   

   Do you ever write fantasy stories?

   I have not been a writer…of stories, journals, diaries, letters, etc. I write emails and texts on a regular basis…but it's been almost miraculous that I've kept this blog.  I started writing a fantasy…I'm a chapter in.  I don't know if I will ever finish it.  
2. If you did, what period in time would you choose?

   If I wrote a fantasy, chance are it would be in present day.  Though I have read a chunk of historical fiction and enjoyed it…Victorian age or Arthurian or Highland based - yes I know I just mixed time and place =)
3. DelFonte asked and I'll answer:
   
   

   Did your dynamic start in the bedroom only? 

   Yes, our dynamic was bedroom only.  While we have always had some kink in our sex, D/s (as switch or solely one role) didn't exist outside of the bedroom until about 2 years ago.
   

   
   

   How did it migrate to other parts of life?

   When the switching ended and D/s became D=Sir and s=me…that's when it migrated to other parts of life.  Due to circumstances, I desperately needed Him, his consistency, his strength, his leadership…both inside the bedroom and out.  He kept me from falling apart and loosing myself. 

Sofia's Answers

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   I will answer in a couple of posts.  Please feel free to ask more or follow-up.  I'm also happy to ask my Sir, as I know you rarely actually hear from him...as he doesn't read or write anywhere in blogland.  But I can ask and relay information.

   
   

   
   

   
   

   
   

   
   
   This whole answering questions is kinda fun…thanks for playing along!  Please feel free to ask more or follow-up.  I'm also happy to ask my Sir, as I know you rarely actually hear from him...as he doesn't read or write anywhere in blogland.  But I can ask and relay information.

   
   

   
   

   Sofia asked and I'll answer:

   
   

   1. What do you like most about submission? Least?
   Wow…that's a question that I could ponder for…a LOOOOONG time!

   Hmmmmm.  

   I guess some of what I love most about submission would be the settled, contented, safe place of knowing where I am and who I am and what I am.  

   Least, well….I guess I dislike my inability to submit sometimes…especially when I want to but am unwilling to.  Does that make any sense?

   
   

   
   2. If you could change one thing - about yourself, or your relationship, or anything in your life - what would it be and how would you want it to be different?
   I would love to change my self image.  I struggle with not loving how I look and I would love to learn to.  I would also love some more self restraint or self control…or Maybe for Sir to have less ;)

   
   3. What is your favorite memory? It can be submissive or vanilla.
   Well, dating my Sir…forever ago…Days my kids were born…Spending time with my siblings…Being fucked into oblivion…Listening to my children laugh…

   yup, can't pick just one.

   
   4. What is your favorite kinky activity?

   Being bound, beaten and used.  Easy peasy.  =0

   
   

Abby's Answers

1. Thanks for the questions.

   
   

   I really appreciate them, really!

   It's interesting to explore questions that people ask...think about something I haven't thought about before...things that I often just hadn't thought about or explored.  So...really - Thank YOU!

   
   

   
   

   I will answer in a couple of posts.  Please feel free to ask more or follow-up.  I'm also happy to ask my Sir, as I know you rarely actually hear from him...as he doesn't read or write anywhere in blogland.  But I can ask and relay information.

   
   

   
   

   Abby asked and I'll answer:

   1. I know that yours used to be a 'switch' relationship, if possible to share, what caused that to change....one event or some discussions?

   Well, it's sort of complicated and sort of easy.  The easy answer is that I had a devastating series of events that shattered me and Sir stepped up and grounded me and held me together with his Dominance.  

   
   

   2. You can choose 1 'toy' to give away forever, what do you choose.

   The fucking HAIRBRUSH!!!  But sadly, my hair may object =)

   
   

   3. Is there something that you have not been spanked with, but would love to try?

   A whip…I think…
   (or several other peoples hands)
   

   
   

   4, When did you first realize you were submissive?

   I had the feelings within the first few months of dating my Sir…over a couple of dozen years ago.  Though, I didn't put the word to the feelings until a couple of years ago.  I did life those dozens of years as a switch…so spending time being a submissive and embracing submission and then Topping for Sir.

Questions

March is 
Question-and-Answer month.  

If you have ANY questions that are
non-anonymity jeopardizing - ask away!!

Anything about....

• Me
• Sir
• Sex
• D/s
• Us/Our Relationship
• ANYTHING!!

Comment or send me an e-mail SirQsmlb@gmail.com

I'll write posts to answer your questions. 

Sir Q and Meme Meme Meme Me

Memes...go around and around.  
I love them - reading and doing them.
This one I got from Hermione.

So I asked Sir if he would be willing to answer the questions on the meme...for fun.  He said, sure...so the Sir's answers in blue are his direct quotes...interestingly I don't think I agree with all of his answers...but they are his and we'll let that be that.  My answers are in pinkish.

1. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was the first thing you thought?  
I need to shave
How does my hair do that?
2. How much cash do you have on you?  
Zero Dollars

Nine Dollars

3. What's a word that rhymes with 'Door'?  
MoreWhore
4. Favourite planet?  
EarthPluto (I'm not giving up on it)
5. Do you own more than 100 CDs?  
YesYes
6. Have you ever finished off the popcorn and ate the junk from the bottom of the bag?  
YaUm...always?
7. What kind of top are you wearing?  
OxfordBlue cotton
8. Do you label yourself?  
Not reallyFrequently
9. Name the brand of shoes you are currently wearing? 
Shoeless Joe Jackson (as he wiggles his toes)None....I love being barefoot
10. Bright or dark room? 
BrightSoft light
11. Have you ever been pooped on from the sky?  
No - had that conversation once today already.Ya, sadly.
12. What does your watch look like?  
SilverI don't wear watches...haven't since I was 21
13. What were you doing at midnight last night?  
Laying in bedLaying in bed with my love
14. Have you ever done anything you could be arrested for?  
YesYes
15. Have you ever dated someone a decade older than you?  
NoNo
16. Have you ever listened to a song and cried?  
I don't think so.Yes, though I am NOT a crier.
17. Who last told you he/she loved you? 
My wifeMy husband...and before that my children
18. What was the last furry thing you touched?  
My wifeMy dog (I'm not going to be so cruel)
19. How many drugs have you done in the past three days?  
ZeroCaffeine count?
20. Favourite age you have been so far?  
4314, 18, 21, 22, 24, 27, 30, 33, 40, 41
21. Have you ever had a secret crush on a teacher?  
YesYes
22. What was the last thing you said to someone?  
YesWow.
23. Have you ever been found sleep walking?  
NoYes
24. The last song you listened to?  
Fun, "We Are Young"
Stay by Rihanna
25. What's your favourite number?  
44Just A Little Waltz played by my child
26. Where did you live in 1987?  
West of hereSame metro area as Sir
27. What do you do when vending machines steal your money?  Shake them.

Put in more money

28. Do you kiss with your eyes open or closed?  
YesDepends
29. If you could be fluent in any other language, what would it be? 
LatinJust one?  German, Spanish, Japanese, Chinese, Russian...
30. What was the last song you sang?  
Fun, "We Are Young"
Stay by Rihanna
31. Have you ever seen a ghost?  

No

Maybe
32. When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone and mailed it?  a letter (incredulously)...oh fuck...1980's
Today
33. Can you change the oil on a car?  

Ya

Yes - had to be able to do that before I was allowed to own one.
34. How far back do you know about your ancestry?  

15 generations

1500/1600's
35. When showering, do you start the water and then get in, or get in and then start the water?  

pfft...start the water and get in.

ALWAYS start the water...seriously - I'm a masochist, but HELLSNO.
36. Have you ever crashed a car?  

Yes

Yes - not my fault
37. Does every family have a crazy relative?  

pfffffft...ya

Just one?  
38. Have you ever sent a prank call or email?  

We'll say yes

Yes, I'm not proud.
39. How old do you look?  

40

I would guess I look my age.  
40. Should guys wear pink?  

Ya

Absolutely, Sir looks gorgeous in pink.
Please feel free to share this meme on your blog.

Reading Help

Help, Google Reader is going away!

I have been using Google Reader as the main way that I read blog posts.  They feed in automatically.  It's easy and works like a charm.  I use it on my iPhone as well as on my computer.

BUT, Google is shutting it down.

1. What do you all use to read your blogs?  
2. How do you followup on comments you have left?
3. What do you like/dislike about your tool?  

Thanks for your help!!

Spreading Sunshine - Creative and positive inspiration

Sunshine Award

I was nominated for the Sunshine award by Renee Rose. 

The idea is for bloggers to present the sun-loving flower to other bloggers who “creatively and positively inspire others in the blogosphere.”

First off, thank you to Renee Rose.  I love that her blog consists of spanklets, fiction AND real life. She is a gifted writer and I always enjoy seeing her next post in my reader!

Here are the Sunny Questions implied for answering:

Favorite Color: Blue...ALWAYS BLUE.  I like many shades, Navy, Federal, Sapphire, Cobalt, Cornflower, Brandeis...

Favorite Animal:  Sir (hehehe)...

     ok so other than Him, 

     um....Giant Pandas or Horses.  

Favorite Number: 14

Favorite Non-alcoholic Drink: Coffee Milkshake because really - ice cream ROCKS.

Facebook or Twitter:  Facebook

Your Passion: Photography and SEX and spanking and Oh Oh...CONTROL (giving mine to Sir.)

Giving or getting presents: Giving...no question.  I suck at asking and although I am always grateful, I feel awkward getting presents.  But I do adore giving presents.  

Favorite Day:  Any day with my Sir!  Geez - I sound sappy.

Favorite Flowers: Daisy...they are just such a happy flower!

And now, my nominations for creatively and positively-inspiring bloggers...

OK, so I started choosing...I chose many.  I even started with reasons...I got through about four and realized that I was about 1/20 through with who I wanted to and as I thought that I didn't need to nominate THAT many, I stopped.  I love my blog family!  I appreciate your posts.  I SOOOOO APPRECIATE WHEN YOU RESPOND TO COMMENTS!  I love  having that connection.

Thank you ALL.  

If you want to join in the fun, the rules are to:

(1) Thank the person who gave you the award in your blog post.

(2) Complete the Q&A below in your blog post.

(3) Pass on the award to 10-12 deserving and inspiring bloggers, inform them and link to their blogs.