subkitty (aka Hislovely), ancilla_ksst and abby's Answers

1. Please feel free to ask more questions or follow-up.  I'm also happy to ask my Sir, as I know you rarely actually hear from him…as he doesn't read or write anywhere in blogland.  But I can ask and relay information.

subkitty (aka Hislovely) asked and I'll answer:

(sorry I got the questioner wrong…my bad.  I really do appreciate your question subkitty!!!

I would like to ask how do you and Sir Q recover from times when life gets in the way of the dynamic or get in to a fight.

If possible, id like to ask SirQ the same question.

This is a great question.  Life gets in the way tooooooo fucking much!!! Holy cow!!  But…that's life =) So, what do we do.  Well, we adjust, I suppose.  Sir periodically doesn't give a shit whose around, he'll spank my bum (just a swat, but a meaningful one), or he'll casually pull my hair or he'll take me around the corner or upstairs or someplace out of sight and "reset".  But when the busies take over or the stress gets overwhelming it frequently takes this sort of "Reset"…a hard spanking or beating, strong words of ownership, and tightening the leash so to speak to get us back on the same page and back into balance.   When we get into a fight, after TTWD, they are short lived and more infrequent than they were before. It's amazing.  Sir is getting very good at putting his foot down and resetting us.  I am eternally grateful, there is so little time spent being pissy or frustrated or angry.  

ancilla_ksst asked and I'll answer:

What was the first implement that really scared you at the thought of it being used on you? And after (if) you tried it, was it as bad as you imagined or did you like it? Did your feelings on that change over time? If you had to pick one of his implements to fall in a black hole and never see again what would it be?

Hmmmm, first implement that really scared me.  Well…I'm trying to think back.  Long ago…first…I'm not sure my memory is that good. I would guess that the first implement that "scared" me would be wax - not a striking implement, but something he used ON me. It scared the living bejeezus out of me.  Especially when he dripped it on my nipples or when he has dripped it on my pussy.  I don't think it was as bad as I imagined and I did like it.  As time has gone on, although we don't use wax frequently, I do love it.  It still scares me, every time, but I know I can take it.  I also know I LOVE it.  I love the fact that I'm typically restrained when he does it, so I have no choice but to let go.  It's in the letting go, that I can truly find the absolute pleasure!  
Now the second part of her question is sooooo easy.  That motherfucking hairbrush would go away!!!! I don't even know if I care what my hair looks like that much that I wouldn't do away with all possible hair brushes.  They are evil when used against one's behind! 

abby asked and I'll answer:

College sweethearts......how long did you know each other before you started into the D/s....or were you both kinky from the beginning and it grew?

I was completely inexperienced when Sir and I started dating.  He was not.  Though, I don't know if he had much or any kink in his previous relationships.  But ours kind of started out right away.  We started with switching pretty quickly…like within the first month.  Spankings and toys and bondage came to our relationship early.  He is very adventurous and so am I.  I'm also fairly insatiable so…we're well suited to kink, I think.