Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Real Love

OK, so I was at church and the reading was 1 Corinthians 13, you know ...

                            Love is patient, love is kind... love never fails.

The sermon was phenomenal, one of those that really spoke to me.
So as I digested it and this is what I got...

Love isn't two sided.  

              Not REAL love.

Puppy love can be.
    I love you if you love me.
          I give to you because you give to me.  
               I do this for you and expect you to do this for me.
                     Tit for Tat.

Real Love is
     no-strings attached.
          It's one sided.
               It's a statement from me to you.

I
Love
You.  
(period)...
no ifs, ands, or buts

Now, ideally, love will be mutual - give and receive...
      but if not, I still love you.

Love never fails, if it's real love.

18 comments:

  1. The passage from Cor. is one of my favorites.

    Hug,
    joey

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    1. :)

      It's funny, I've heard it all my life, yet I have to say after listening to this sermon, I will look at it in a new light. It means so much more to me.

      Hugs,
      fiona

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  2. Shakespeare sums up love nicely too:

    Let me not to the marriage of true minds
    Admit impediments. Love is not love
    Which alters when it alteration finds,
    Or bends with the remover to remove:
    O no! it is an ever-fixed mark

    From Sonnet 116 which was read at my wedding.
    I like Corinthians too...

    DF

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    1. Hi DF! Thanks for commenting!

      WOW, I don't know if I have ever heard that...it is WONDERFUL! Really, exactly what I was talking about.

      Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds. Exactly...

      Hugs,
      fiona

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  3. One of my favorite passages too. Although, I have to wonder, if it is never nourished or returned, can it be sustained?
    hugs abby

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    1. I don't know if it can be sustained. But I do believe that my love should be mine to give. What is done with it and what happens when I put it out, well - that is other's decisions. I can't control what others do.

      hugs,
      fiona

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  4. Yes. Keeping in mind that love is a verb. So one can act with love, as best we can, in all ways ~ i think it's a form of mindfulness, if that makes any sense. i can be a loving person regardless of what's going on with the other person.

    Of course, you know, i think sometimes acting with love means i need to go, or i need to set a limit, or say no. Sometimes. But figuring out how to do that lovingly is - for me - a key element.

    Nice post!!

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    1. Absolutely. I am glad you made that clarification. I believe, whole heartedly that I am responsible for MY actions. I cannot control other's actions.

      There are times that I have had to lovingly say no. There are times where I had to lovingly put limits on for either the other person or to protect, either physically or psychologically.

      Thanks aisha,
      fiona

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  5. Wonderful post, and so very true.

    To truly love is to know when to let go, and know when to hold on; finding happiness in knowing you have done the right thing for the ones you love.

    Thank you for putting up such a thoughtful post.

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    1. Thanks for the comment Anna May!
      I really appreciate your input!

      ~fiona

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  6. Love has no strings attached, but love will create the strongest bonds. Thanks for sharing such a positive post :)

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    1. Thanks faerie. The bonds of love are amazing!!

      hugs,
      fiona

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  7. So I've really loved.

    I wasn't really loved back, but still I loved. Supportively, long-sufferingly.

    It was a sort of black pit of soul-suckingness. So I agree with you - but it's not sustainable, not like that.

    I think it's easier to really love someone who just ignores you, honestly. :)

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    1. C,
      Point of clarification...
      You think it's easier to love someone who ignores you than someone who ___fill_in_the_blank_____.

      Sorry, just confused.

      Hugs

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    2. Conina I've been in that place too, but also in the ignoring - indifference is soul sucking despair. At least hate or dislike is an emotion being returned - albeit negatively.

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    3. Than someone who pretends to love you but doesn't actually. :)

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-fiona