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Wednesday, February 13, 2013

The Ritual I Missed

Sir Q and I have only a few "rituals."  One of them started very innocuously, not a request by him or something premeditated by me.  But all of a sudden, I'm doing this minor service every morning.  I don't notice it as being a "ritual" until I realize that if I don't do it and I really miss it.
Putting on 

His shoes
and socks 
in the morning.




Sir gets up and goes to work it is before I have a need to get up.  About six-eight months ago, I started getting up to put his socks and shoes on.  It's gotten to the place that when he opens his sock drawer, I wake up.  It's amazing.  The sound of the wood, sliding open, him removing his socks from the drawer...my response is Pavlovian.  I can be in a dead sleep and that act - not the alarm, not him getting out of bed, not the shower, not getting dressed...but opening his drawer, and I'm awake.  I pull back the covers, immediately, roll off of his side of the bed, sit cross-legged on the floor and take his socks.  I take one of his feet and set it on my knee.  I take the socks apart and put one sock on - touching his foot, rubbing it as I pull it up, caressing his calf as I smooth the top, I pull down his pant leg, then put on his shoe (most frequently black dress shoes), tie them, then set his foot back on the floor.  I then redo the same process with the other foot.  When I'm done, I stand up, get back in bed and he kisses me and tells me to have a good day.

It's not much, but it means a lot to me.  I never knew how much it meant until I was sick this week and he didn't wake me up and I didn't wake up.  I had the stomach flu and was really OUT of it.  So, he was doing me a kindness in letting me sleep.  I felt so sad about not doing this little thing.  I felt ... dissatisfied ... like something was missing (other than my food).  I really missed this small act.  Today I got up and put on his socks and shoes and it was so meaningful to me.  And as I type this, that seems so silly to say.  Putting on someones shoes - meaningful?  But really it was to ME.  All's is right in my world.


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  1. dancingbarezFebruary 13, 2013 at 3:16 PM

    Hi Fiona,

    So glad you are you feeling better. This sounds like a wonderful ritual to me. Sometimes it seems the ones we initiate ourselves do become the most meaningful. So glad you are back on track.

    Lovely post

    db

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    1. SirQsmlbFebruary 13, 2013 at 10:48 PM

      Thanks db, I'm glad to be feeling better.

      hugs,
      fiona

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  2. faerie wingsFebruary 13, 2013 at 4:29 PM

    Isn't funny how we can place so much meaning on something that seems so trivial? I guess it really is only trivial if it doesn't mean anything. We have a small ritual in the morning that I miss so much if I don't get to do it, too. Good to hear you are feeling well enough to do what makes you both feel good :)

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    1. SirQsmlbFebruary 13, 2013 at 10:49 PM

      Very good point faerie. I like the idea that it's only trivial if it means nothing. What is your morning ritual?

      hugs,
      fiona

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  3. AnonymousFebruary 13, 2013 at 4:45 PM

    Terrific ritual fiona. Thank you for sharing.

    Hug,
    joey

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  4. toriFebruary 13, 2013 at 5:22 PM

    OOh i enjoy this, but the opposite,(mornings not a good time for me so for his health and sanity he leaves me be mostly lol) i like removing his shoes when he gets home and his socks when we retire for the night, i enjoy foot worship.

    x

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    1. SirQsmlbFebruary 13, 2013 at 10:51 PM

      LOL, I love that he leaves you alone for his health and sanity (and yours). It is lovely to sit at his feet, isn't it?!

      hugs,
      fiona

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  5. cammies on the floorFebruary 13, 2013 at 6:29 PM

    finding pleasure in the mundane not only helps but strengthens the relationships. I'm sure he appreciates it and missed it as much as you did.

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    1. SirQsmlbFebruary 13, 2013 at 10:51 PM

      I whole heartedly agree. Thanks cammie.

      hugs,
      fiona

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  6. SpankyFebruary 13, 2013 at 7:31 PM

    Thanks for sharing this!

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  7. SmilingBelleFebruary 13, 2013 at 8:22 PM

    Fiona,

    I just loved this post. I think this is a great ritual:) Thank you so much for sharing this and also so glad that you are feeling better!

    Belle:)

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    1. SirQsmlbFebruary 13, 2013 at 10:54 PM

      Thanks Belle. I am feeling better and am soooo thankful!

      hugs,
      fiona

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  8. AnonymousFebruary 13, 2013 at 10:03 PM

    I think it's a very adoring ritual.

    Love,
    Hannah

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    1. SirQsmlbFebruary 13, 2013 at 10:54 PM

      Oh, Lord, do I love this man! Thanks Hannah,

      hugs,
      fiona

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  9. TerpsichoreFebruary 13, 2013 at 10:34 PM

    sounds like a wonderful ritual...it is something that is special to you... :-) Take care, Terpsichore

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    1. SirQsmlbFebruary 13, 2013 at 10:55 PM

      Thanks Terpsichore. I am grateful for the ritual.

      hugs,
      fiona

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