Answers One thru Three

Thanks for the questions.

I really appreciate them, really!
It's interesting to explore questions that people ask...think about something I haven't thought about before...things that I often just hadn't thought about or explored.  So...really - Thank YOU!


I will answer in a couple of posts.  Please feel free to ask more or follow-up.  I'm also happy to ask my Sir, as I know you NEVER actually hear from him...as he doesn't read or write anywhere in blogworld.  But I can ask and relay information.

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joey:  fiona, Have you ever switched roles with your Sir, even for a few hours?  Hug,  joey

I've actually got a post about this that I will post soon.  It is worthy of a whole post, though - because it is a long answer.  The short answer is that until a year and a half ago, we were switches....so, historically it was a regular occurrence.  Have you always been a switch?  Do you have any aspects of D/s, DD, BDSM in your relationship with your wife?  - joey, I know - you didn't offer to answer questions...so you are more than welcome to ignore =)

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DelFonte:  Hi Fiona,  Your D/s dynamic appears very sexual and bedroom oriented, how does it influence other parts of your life? How do you maintain your submission?  DF

Well, our D/s dynamic is definitely physically demonstrated when we are in or bedroom (having sex).  That said, we are not bedroom only folks.

I have learned that I enjoy being submissive.  I've spent a childhood being large-and-in-charge.  I worked very hard and it was necessary that I was very responsible from an early age.  I am an extremely capable young woman, but I must say that all of the stress, responsibility, weight on my shoulders did take a toll.  I needed help or it would crush me at some point. And...that's where Sir Q stepped in and took a more permanent roll of Dom.

He helps me maintain my submission. He has a look he can give me that I will immediately acquiesce to or pull my self together if I was inappropriate.  He will touch me or pull my hair or slap my ass or squeeze my hand as a reminder or reprimand if I am being a particular pain in the ass in public.  I freely give him final say on a great deal.  If we are home, and I'm being cheeky (as he puts it), he will simply march me upstairs to our room and straighten me out =)

That said, we have been together for over two decades, we are partners in crime.  We help each other, support each other, adore each other.

How about you DF...what helps you maintain your lifestyle?

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Lola:  How many hours per week do you spend having sex?

Hmmm...well on average, I'd say it's about 7-8 hours per week having sex...actually having sex - you know, naked, groping, sucking, fucking.  But there is a lot of playtime, foreplay, spankings, fondling,  groping, rubbing, pinching, etc.  

We're a BDSM couple, a D/s couple.  We have playtime, frequently.  We have sex typically five-seven days a week.  Some days we have sex more than once a day, some weeks we have sex less than five days.  We have short quickies - you know, fifteen/twenty minutes...and we have times where it's hours - with ejaculation happening multiple times.  So there is a LOT of variation.  The younger people in our house see us kiss and hug frequently.  We are crazy mushy and have a lot of stolen, hidden moment of sexual excitement and pleasure.