Thursday, March 7, 2013

Answers One thru Three

Thanks for the questions.

I really appreciate them, really!
It's interesting to explore questions that people ask...think about something I haven't thought about before...things that I often just hadn't thought about or explored.  So...really - Thank YOU!


I will answer in a couple of posts.  Please feel free to ask more or follow-up.  I'm also happy to ask my Sir, as I know you NEVER actually hear from him...as he doesn't read or write anywhere in blogworld.  But I can ask and relay information.

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joey:  fiona, Have you ever switched roles with your Sir, even for a few hours?  Hug,  joey

I've actually got a post about this that I will post soon.  It is worthy of a whole post, though - because it is a long answer.  The short answer is that until a year and a half ago, we were switches....so, historically it was a regular occurrence.  Have you always been a switch?  Do you have any aspects of D/s, DD, BDSM in your relationship with your wife?  - joey, I know - you didn't offer to answer questions...so you are more than welcome to ignore =)

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DelFonte:  Hi Fiona,  Your D/s dynamic appears very sexual and bedroom oriented, how does it influence other parts of your life? How do you maintain your submission?  DF

Well, our D/s dynamic is definitely physically demonstrated when we are in or bedroom (having sex).  That said, we are not bedroom only folks.

I have learned that I enjoy being submissive.  I've spent a childhood being large-and-in-charge.  I worked very hard and it was necessary that I was very responsible from an early age.  I am an extremely capable young woman, but I must say that all of the stress, responsibility, weight on my shoulders did take a toll.  I needed help or it would crush me at some point. And...that's where Sir Q stepped in and took a more permanent roll of Dom.

He helps me maintain my submission. He has a look he can give me that I will immediately acquiesce to or pull my self together if I was inappropriate.  He will touch me or pull my hair or slap my ass or squeeze my hand as a reminder or reprimand if I am being a particular pain in the ass in public.  I freely give him final say on a great deal.  If we are home, and I'm being cheeky (as he puts it), he will simply march me upstairs to our room and straighten me out =)

That said, we have been together for over two decades, we are partners in crime.  We help each other, support each other, adore each other.

How about you DF...what helps you maintain your lifestyle?

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Lola:  How many hours per week do you spend having sex?
Hmmm...well on average, I'd say it's about 7-8 hours per week having sex...actually having sex - you know, naked, groping, sucking, fucking.  But there is a lot of playtime, foreplay, spankings, fondling,  groping, rubbing, pinching, etc.  

We're a BDSM couple, a D/s couple.  We have playtime, frequently.  We have sex typically five-seven days a week.  Some days we have sex more than once a day, some weeks we have sex less than five days.  We have short quickies - you know, fifteen/twenty minutes...and we have times where it's hours - with ejaculation happening multiple times.  So there is a LOT of variation.  The younger people in our house see us kiss and hug frequently.  We are crazy mushy and have a lot of stolen, hidden moment of sexual excitement and pleasure.

12 comments:

  1. Thank you fiona for answering questions for us.

    I am a switch in the scene, but consider my natural orientation to be a submissive. My wife has spanked me, but she would never switch.

    My wife is vanilla, but we have aspects of D/s in our life.

    Hug,
    joey

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    1. Thanks for answering my questions joey. I really appreciate it. I would love to learn more about your life with your wife and your submissive natural orientation =)

      hugs,
      fiona

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  2. Great questions and answers, the more I learn about you the more I am amazed at how alike we are...except for the switching part!
    hugs abby

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    1. Thanks abby. It's kind of funny how many commonalities we have, isn't it?!

      hugs,
      fiona

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  3. Fiona, do you have any time left for mundane activities like work?
    I can only look at what you tell us in admiration.
    Keep it up, girl.

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    1. Hehehe...it's not that much time, silly Bas. We have sex frequently, but like I said, it's not always a lengthy proposition. Periodically we have LONG sessions, but we also have frequent quickies...you know with younger people in our home, we have to take advantage of what we can!

      ...and I do try to keep HIM up :)
      (yes, that was totally one of those middle school/high school comments....sorry)

      hugs,
      fiona

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  4. While you were switching, did you ever have any idea that you would, one day, want him to be the Dom and only the Dom or was it a "Eureka!" moment?

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    1. YEA!!!! You commented on MY blog. I am SOOOO honored. And NO I'm not being sarcastic. I am totally psyched!!!

      Hmmm....I'll answer your question in a post.

      hugs,
      fiona

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  5. Oooh, good answers - and interesting questions! i'm particularly fascinated by the idea that you were both switches at first. Do you ever miss being the Top? Does he ever miss being able to bottom?

    Also, what Bas said.. how do you do it all?

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    1. Hmmmm....that's NOT the question you said you were going to ask!! Hmmmm...I am answering the switch question in some detail in a day or two...let me know if you still have any questions :)

      hugs,
      fiona

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  6. Hi Fiona, Thank you for your answer.
    What keeps me and him going is a sense of humour. It is an essential part of our relationship. If we can't laugh we're in trouble.
    DF

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    1. Thank you so much for answering my question! Oh, laughter is the BEST medicine!! I mean, seriously...therapeutic, restorative, energizing!

      hugs,
      fiona

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Thank you very much for sharing your comments. This blogland world has become so much more meaningful because of the conversations that y'all have with me through comments...REALLY!

I appreciate them all and will endeavor to answer EVERY comment if at all possible!

THANK YOU
-fiona