Saturday, March 2, 2013

Pants

"I know who wears the pants in your family," says a friend of ours...actually one of Sir's best friends.  

He's looking at me.  He's looking at me because he knows that I wear the pants in our family.  That's what he knows.  

"Who wears the pants in our family?"  I say looking pointedly at Sir and smiling, sweetly (not smugly or accusingly or cheeky).

"I do."  Sir says Confidently, without missing a beat and with no further explanation.  

Our friend looks a bit surprised and looks to me again, I'm sure he was looking for me to have a sharp comeback.  

"Yes, you do." I say, then looking at our friend add, "He wears the pants in our family."

"Times change." Sir says to him with a smile.  

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"I must have been a raging bitch," I say to Sir later at home.  

"No, but outspoken and domineering sometimes.  Not anymore, well ... not domineering anymore.  I AM proud of you, fiona."  


26 comments:

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    1. Thanks joey, it was a terrific night :)

      hugs,
      fiona

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  2. I wonder why so much spam comment here???

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    1. I know...what is up with that? I marked them as spam, but it's a bit insane.
      Sorry about that.

      ~fiona

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  3. wow -you won the spam lotto!

    Good for you and your man! -- I sort of hate the "who wears the pants" crack - because it's always an insult to you both

    so good for you both for shutting him down with the truth.

    sfp

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    1. Seriously, NOT the lotto I would like to win :)

      It was actually a great end to the conversation...I liked how Sir responded.

      ~fiona

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  4. Love the way you responded Fiona, it sounds like your Sir did you. It's such a rewarding feeling when something triggers us to look back and take note of the progress we have made.

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    1. I am quite happy with our progress. Thanks!

      ~fiona

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  5. How times change for the better! Very nice.
    hugs abby

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    1. Oh, indeed abby. Definitely the better :)

      hugs,
      fiona

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  6. This made me smile, Fiona :)

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  7. Love this Fiona! And that last line made my heart smile..."I am proud of you Fiona". awww weee:) Wonderful words to hear:)

    Belle:)

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    1. Thank you so much Belle. They are the best words to hear!! Well, next to I love you and ... um ... well a few others too :)

      hugs,
      fiona

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  8. Loving it Fiona.... bet yoou just loved it :)

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    1. I did love it, thanks Joolz!

      hugs,
      fiona

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  9. I agree, I don't like the "wears the pants" comment in general, it brings up both under judgment, demeans.
    But it sounds as though the change is something you both relish.

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    1. The change is indeed something we are both pleased with!

      Thank you!!

      hugs,
      fiona

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  10. I agree to that i don't like the who wears the pants comment but really like how fiona and sir replied..... Had to be good to feel that progress together :)
    Nice surprise for Sir's friend! Always feels wonderful when Sir says he is proud :)
    Hugs,
    Alexis

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    1. Thanks for the comment Alexis! Oh, it's the best when he's proud and says so!! It is wonderful to make forward, positive progress in our relationship.

      hugs,
      fiona

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  11. Proud. the magic word. I melt whenever it's applied directly to me :)

    and yeah, i don't like the pants comment much either. especially not in front of the man of the house. i think girl friend to girl friend in private is one thing, but not in front of our man's face.

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    1. Oh isn't that the best - when they are PROUD of us!! YEA!!!

      You know, I actually like that our friend got to hear the response. It was a great opportunity to set the record straight :)

      hugs,
      fiona

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  12. I love to keep people guessing. My husband will pretend I'm the boss in public, when we both clearly know who wears the pants... :)

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    1. Ya, there are many who think I am the one who makes all decisions, but it has actually NEVER been that way. We make big decisions together. We are a team. I submit, willingly to him, but I am a voting member of parliament.

      hugs,
      fiona

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  13. People say the strangest things. At work (when we both worked in the same place) people would say similar things to me - even make comments about me tying Husband to the bed and/or whipping him.

    We would always look at each other knowingly and smile our secret smile.

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    1. Hahaha...if only they knew. Ya, how totally inappropriate and how completely wrong. But I love that smile of knowledge!!!

      =)

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-fiona