Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Life Long Learning

We're snuggling after...some fun, when Sir says,

"I don't know what books you're reading,
but you have really gotten good at giving blow jobs."

Don't think I could have smiled any bigger.

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But...Of course, I couldn't leave well enough alone
and had to continue to over think...um...everything :)

So, when we had a minute alone I quietly said,
"so what have I changed to make them so much better for you?"

Thank God - what he has perceived as changed and better
is indeed what I've been trying to change and focus on
- that could have been bad.

So....those things...

well among them was,
Licking, more.  Focusing on the vein under his shaft.
Licking his balls more and sucking on them and touching them.
Nibbling and kissing.
Rubbing my tongue around the tip more.
Adding more variety...suck, kiss, nibble, swirl, lick, suck...etc.

So....sad, isn't it...
I've been giving this man blow jobs for well over twenty years
and I went too frequently past a quick kiss or lick or three,
straight to sucking and taking him deep and going up and down on his shaft.

So...fabulous, isn't it...
I've been giving this man blow jobs for well over twenty years
and I didn't become too complacent and
still want to learn how to make our sex life better...
and thank goodness, so does he.

28 comments:

  1. I loved this because...it just goes to prove that it doesnt matter how many books one may read of all these techniques to give the 'perfect blowjob' really it all comes down to the mans personal preference.

    I had an ex that liked it fast, pretty much no licking..just in the mouth and away we go lol, whereas my Master prefers for me to take my time, to tease etc

    I figure the best way is practice and feedback, the only real way of knowing what pleases them is to ask!

    x

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    1. Absolutely tori, it's all about personal preference...why TTWD needs to be about what WE do and WE like. I agree, though, practice and communication...make most things better!

      hugs,
      fiona

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  2. Thanks for sharing your tips...but the most important one...ask what He likes. I only started with BJ's after i met Master and i was so nervous about knowing what to do..Yes i read on-lline...then one day i just asked Him if I was doing 'it' right. He laughed and said if I was not....He would tell me what He liked. Hurrah for you for wanting to improve..and to Him for noticing and telling you.
    hugs abby

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    1. I so agree...the most important is communication!!!!
      I adore you and your master...have I said that recently. You two rock!

      hugs,
      fiona

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  3. I think no matter how long you have been doing it, it is fabulous that you are wanting to find ways to improve and that you are. it's amazing to me how Moore open ttwd is... I really have learned to ask and pay more attention to how Sir reacts so I can find how He likes it. Men are all different, for sure.

    That is awesome Sir Q acknowledged. i know when i get told i where a smile for days.

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    1. Thanks HS. It is amazing how TTWD requires communication which to me makes a better relationship. I do think if not for TTWD, I would not have been attuned to his reactions if not for TTWD, so I am grateful.

      hugs,
      fiona

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  4. it's also fun to note that on different occasions one thing might be MORE appreciated than another. enjoy!

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  5. No matter what the topic is, asking and listening are so important. Yay for you. :)

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    1. hehehe, Thanks Ana. I agree...that communication is so vital!

      hugs,
      fiona

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  6. I'm always open to new tips and tricks. The different noises they can make are just as fun to hear. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Oh ya, those noises are wonderful, are't they Mellie?

      Hugs,
      fiona

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  7. Fiona,

    Thanks Fiona. I always try to improve my technique. But, for me, it is using my tongue for her pleasure. The bottom line is, never become complacent. And, I always ask for feedback from her and advice so I can make the experience more enjoyable next time.

    Hugs,
    joey

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    1. You're so right, joey. Complacency is easy, but sadly doesn't lead to improvements and keeping things alive and exciting. That two prong attack, working on improvement AND communicating with your partner make for a fulfilling sex life!

      hugs,
      fiona

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  8. I feel like, learning to please someone could be never ending. Which is a very exciting thought!

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    1. It's never ending if you're always wanting to learn more. And wants and needs change over time, so there are always opportunities for learning :)

      hugs,
      fiona

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  9. Good for you Fiona. I always try to learn new ways to please. Thanks for sharing.

    xo

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    1. Thanks Bonnie. There are many opportunities, aren't there?

      hugs,
      fiona

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  10. Master started giving me explicit instructions after about five? of them. But he clearly very much enjoyed the original five too. Glad he didn't start giving me instructions on the first one, since I was already reasonably good at it and my feelings would have been hurt.

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    1. Oh, if Sir had given me directions right away, I would have been devastated. But when the times are right and trust is established, it can lead to fabulous fireworks!

      hugs,
      fiona

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  11. I really like the sad and happy of this, my husband and I are always trying new things and surprising each other still in our discoveries. I am grateful as well.

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    1. It is wonderful that you BOTH are trying new things. It does lead to phenomenal outcomes sometimes!

      hugs,
      fiona

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  12. So true. I have learned a great deal about giving blowjobs in the last couple of years. And I know Ty is really pleased.

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    1. Isn't it wonderful to learn things that please your significant other? It is such a gift!

      hugs,
      fiona

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  13. Good for you! Coming up with new little tricks is always great. :)

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    1. Absolutely! New tricks that are successful at pleasing others is a wonderful thing.

      hugs,
      fiona

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  14. first...love the new look!

    second...wtf is wrong with me? WHY do I always read here on THURSDAY when I cannot cum? why why why?

    shaking my head.

    Your writing is so fabulous. I love that you share these intimate moments, that you are open to us as well as him. Your love story, and your D/s story, are so integrated that it makes me smile. I won't ever have that, and am content with what I do have...but reading here makes me feel really happy. Thanks for that.

    nilla

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    1. hehehehe, thanks for noticing my new look. Second...HILARIOUS. Sorry you can't cum....but I really appreciate the compliment.

      Wow, nilla, complimenting my writing...from you that's seriously high praise, as I adore your writing! I showed Sir your comment and he beamed. Thank you so much. We are beyond lucky and seriously appreciative of what we have.

      hugs,
      fiona

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I appreciate them all and will endeavor to answer EVERY comment if at all possible!

THANK YOU
-fiona