Saturday, March 7, 2015

SubHub in Phoenix Question

  1. Please feel free to ask more questions or follow-up.  I'm also happy to ask my Sir, as I know you rarely actually hear from him…as he doesn't read or write anywhere in blogland.  But I can ask and relay information.

SubHub in Phoenix asked and I'll answer:
1.  You are obviously excited about the prospect transition from submissive to slave, as you should be .... What, if anything, makes you nervous about that transition into a slave?  
Hmmm Nervous.  Well, I suppose the thing that I'm most nervous about is failing.  Not that I anticipate that...and I don't actually expect that we will...but life changes and we evolve along with it.  We'll see where the wind blows us.

2.  What are your hard limits?... what are your soft limits? I guess that's 2 more
Hahahah....well..As Sir and I were together ... FOREVER ... we've evolved into our more formal D/s relationships from longtime switches very slowly but slowly.  Because of that, we've never had formal limit listings.  That said...I'm guessing hard limits might include...
blood.  Sir doesn't like blood so needle and knife play is out for him.  
scat.  I'm not into scat - pretty sure he isn't either.   

ok...so truth.
I'm writing this response and then wonder what I haven't thought of because I couldn't think of anything past those two answers...so ... Google.  I googled BDSM Limit List and the first link I clicked on gave me an extensive list ... so I looked and this is what I determined based on the list...

I will add....


  • Weight Gain.  I struggle with my weight.  I'm not thin. I wouldn't ever allow myself to intentionally gain weight.
  • Swallowing Urine.  Just not my thing.
  • Shaving Hair (Head).  Sir loves my hair to be long.  He wouldn't ever allow that.
  • Serving as toilet (feces).  Not interested.
  • Serving as ashtray.  
  • Mummification.  That may be panic inducing for me.  
  • Infantilism.  
  • Given away to another Dom (perm).  I belong to Sir.  He's my husband, my love and my life.
  • Gas masks.  I'm just not interested.
  • Diaper (soil).  Nah.
  • Catheterization.  I used to struggle with yeast infections...I just don't want to tempt fate.
  • Brown showers (scat).  No thanks.



complete list from the website:
Abrasion
Age play
Anal sex
Anal plugs (small)
Anal plugs (large)
Anal plug (public, under clothes)
Animal roles
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders)
Aromas
Asphyxiation
Auctioned for charity
Bathroom use control
Bestiality
Beating (soft)
Beating (hard)
Blindfolds
Being serviced (sexual)
Being bitten
Breast bondage
Breath control
Branding
Boot worship
Bondage (light)
Bondage (heavy)
Bondage (multi-day)
Bondage (public, under clothing)
Breast whipping
Brown showers (scat)
Cages (locked inside of)
Caning
Catheterization
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)
Chains
Chamber pot use
Chastity belts
Chauffeuring
Choking
Chores (domestic service)
Clothespins
Cock worship
Collars (worn in private)
Collars (worn in public)
Competitions (with other Subs)
Corsets (wearing)
Corset training(waist reduction)
Cuffs (leather)
Cuffs (metal)
Cutting
Dental work(elective)
Diapers(wetting)
Diapers(soiling)
Dilation
Dildoes
Double penetration
Electricity
Enemas
Enemas(non-water)
Enforced chastity
Erotic dance(public)
Examinations (physical)
Exercise (forced/required)
Exhibitionism (friends)
Exhibitionism (strangers)
Eye contact restrictions
Face slapping
Fantasy abandonment
Fantasy rape
Fantasy gang-rape
Fear (being scared)
Fisting (anal)
Fisting (vaginal)
Flogging (light)
Flogging (heavy)
Following orders
Foot worship
Forced bedwetting
Forced dressing
Forced homosexuality
Forced masturbation
Forced nudity (private)
Forced nudity (around others)
Forced servitude
Forced smoking(non-smoker)
Force-feeding
Full head hoods
Gags (cloth)
Gags (rubber)
Gags (tape)
Gags(phallic)
Gags(inflated)
Gas masks
Genital sex
Given away to another Dom (temp)
Given away to another Dom (perm)
Golden showers
Gun play
Hairbrush spankings
Hair pulling
Hand jobs (giving)
Hand jobs (receiving)
Harems (serving w/other subs)
Harnessing (leather)
Harnessing (rope)
Having food chosen for you
Having clothing chosen for you
Head (giving fellatio)
High heel worship
High heel wearing(forced)
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)
Hoods
Hot oils (on genitals)
Hot waxing
Housework (doing)
Human puppy dog
Humiliation (private)
Humiliation (public)
Hypnotism
Ice cubes
Immobilization
Infantilism
Initiation rites
Injections
Japanese rope bondage
Interrogations
Kidnapping
Kneeling
Knife play
Leather clothing
Leather restraints
Lectures for misbehavior
Licking (non-sexual)
Lingerie (wearing)
Manacles & Irons
Manicures (giving)
Massage (giving)
Massage (receiving)
Medical scenes
Modeling for erotic photos
Mouth bits
Mummification
Nipple clamps
Nipple weights
Oral/anal play (rimming)
Over-the-knee spanking
Orgasm denial
Orgasm control
Outdoor scenes
Outdoor sex
Pain (severe)
Pain (mild)
Persona training
Phone sex (serving Dom)
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends)
Phone sex(calling at random)
Phone sex(commercial)
Piercing (temporary)
Piercing (permanent)
Plastic surgery
Prison scenes
Prostitution(public pretend)
Prostitution(actual)
Pony slave
Public exposure
Punishment Scene
Pussy whipping
Pussy worship
Riding crops
Riding the horse (crotch tort.)
Rituals
Religious scenes
Restrictive rules on behavior
Rubber/latex clothing
Rope body harness
Saran wrapping
Scratching - getting
Scratching - giving
Sensory deprivation
Serving
Serving as art
Serving as ashtray
Serving as furniture
Serving as a maid
Serving as toilet (urine)
Serving as toilet (feces)
Serving as waitress
Serving orally (sexual)
Serving others (supervised)
Serving others (unsupervised)
Sexual deprivation (short term)
Sexual deprivation (long term)
Shaving (body hair)
Shaving (head hair)
Skinnydipping
Sleep deprivation
Sleepsacks
Slutty clothing (private)
Slutty clothing (public)
Spanking
Spandex clothing
Speech restrictions
Speculums (Anal)
Speculums (vaginal)
Spreader bars
Standing in corner
Stocks
Straight jackets
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)
Strap-on-dildos (wearing)
Strapping (full body beating)
Suspension (upright)
Suspension (inverted)
Suspension (horizontal)
Supplying partners for Dom
Swallowing semen
Swallowing urine
Swallowing feces
Swapping (one other couple)
Swinging (multiple couples)
Tattooing
Teasing
Tickling
Topless Beaches
Triple penetration
Uniforms
Including others
Vaginal dildo
Verbal humiliation
Vibrator on genitals
Voyeurism (watching others)
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)
Video (watching others)
Video (recordings of you)
Voice training
Water torture
Waxing (hair removal)
Wearing symbolic jewelery
Weight loss(<25 lbs)
Weight loss(>25 lbs)
Weight gain(<25 lbs)
Weight gain(25-50 lbs)
Weight gain(>50 lbs)
Whipping
Wooden paddles
Wrestling

9 comments:

  1. I remember the first time I saw that list. I think 1/3 of the things were "What IS that?" Another 1/3 was "People DO that??" and the last third was "When do we start?"

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    1. Well..this was the first time I saw it...so it was more of a...⅓ I wish I could do, ⅓ I have done and ⅓ are wither NO FUCKING WAY or no way or probably not. Hahaha...The joy of being around the blogosphere...I don't have anything that I wonder that people do it...and I am grateful that people of all sorts are out there. We all can get what we need, you know? I hope that means that some folks will be more understanding of me.

      hugs,
      fiona

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  2. Fiona ... two things .......... it's an incredible honor to have my question(s) selected by you to be featured in a post of it's own. I appreciate that very much!!!

    The other things is ..... I just love your answers. I can appreciate and fully understand how you feel ... being nervous about failing. I use my own nervousness about failing as a constant motivator in my servitude to my beautiful Mistress Wife. I wonder in the back of my mind if my journey with Mistress K. is taking us to a natural transition someday from submissive to slave. I wonder..............

    Mistress K. and I have our own list of obvious "hard limits" like you and your Husband have like poop, pee, blood and other obvious things like that.

    Thank you again for featuring my question. Love your blog!

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    1. First...I'm thrilled you asked the question...thanks for commenting! I'm thrilled to answer any questions - ask any time.

      hugs,
      fiona

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  3. Fiona, such a long list of limits. Thanks for sharing. I am so enjoying reading everyone's questions and responses. Great blog.

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    1. Thanks K. I appreciate you commenting. It was fun to peruse the lengthy limit list and think about what we'll do and not do and may do at some time.

      hugs,
      fiona

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  4. I always wondered what was on a list. There are about three things that I would want clarification of, a couple of things I don't know what they are, and at least ten things that would be either hard or soft limits. Your limits are almost exactly the same as mine, there is one thing on your list I might do, but on the big list there are a lot more no's. I love that you are sharing your journey

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    1. I can't help myself Blondie ... what is the thing on her list that you might do?

      *smile

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    2. I know blondie...me too. It was kinda fun to look at a lengthy limit list. OK....so blondie...what will you do that I won't :)

      Thanks for following our journey!

      hugs,
      fiona

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Thank you very much for sharing your comments. This blogland world has become so much more meaningful because of the conversations that y'all have with me through comments...REALLY!

I appreciate them all and will endeavor to answer EVERY comment if at all possible!

THANK YOU
-fiona