So I was out looking for a graphic for my first post and I stumbled onto this article about middle aged women who want to read about sex. So Ok - I fit that mold...I am both middle aged and - among other things, I like to read about sex. Um, have sex... YEA - affirmation!!
Interestingly, when I went back to find the link for this post, I came across another article titled "Why Smart Women Read Romance Novels." When I went on to read the article, it said it was because the "'bodice-rippers', heroes captured heroines against their will. "...types of romance novels finally went out of fashion and with the anomalous exception of 50 Shades, the new and improved modern day romance novels featured strong, smart, savvy women so now smart women wanted to read them.
So here is my issue. I am smart. I have always been described as strong - strong physically & mentally oh and let's not forget OMG strong willed -sooo, ya I'm strong. I would characterize myself as savvy about many things. But I also like to read those apparently OLD FASHIONED romance novels/blogs/e-stories where a smart, strong, savvy woman consensually and sanely exchanges her power with her dominants and gets her clothes ripped off, gets spanked, gets tied up, and ... gets her brains fucked out. Now society seems to have said both historically and currently, that women who are submissive are less than. Less than, poor us. We are minimized, are objectified, are demeaned. It is an atrocity committed against us...and it is considered morally wrong. It is a pitied thing for women and a shameful thing for men. Hmm, I neither want nor need pity.
Now I know that there are unhealthy relationships, but as far as healthy D/s relationships go, we are safe, sane, consensual, calm, glowing and happy as ... mating bunnies =)
It's kind of a bummer that is have a society which says wanting pain, dominance, submission, spankings, floggings ... is wrong (my only real spankings having been given to me by my Sir). I have also seen recent comments and posts (see June's post based off of comments on a previous post) about all women who want any of the above as having been broken or emotionally damaged in some way. I work hard on not feeling shame or guilt (as for that past societal pressure) for wanting or even asking for a spanking. I know there are many of us submissive out here who love spankings, who like pain, who crave dominance and we are strong, smart, savvy, competent and dare I say productive members of society...so WTF?