abby from finally finding "me" wrote a post about "Why Push Limits?"
The end of abby's post was a series of questions:
So, I would like to know, what do you all think....do you view pushing limits as a good thing...does it happen in your relationship?....
So that made me think...
In my reply I said that Sir and I have pushed each other from the moment we met decades ago.
For over two of those decades Sir and I were effectively switches, though never labeled or formalized it, we just were. We both pushed each other sexually. I was extraordinarily inexperienced but exceedingly adventurous. Sir was more experienced, but I was a quick study =) We pushed each other to soaring heights. We loved sex, we loved bondage, we loved force and crops and floggers and spankings and anal play and hand cuffs and ... and ... and fantasy. But we started small and pushed each others limits to get there.
As Husband and Wife:
We push each other to be better, to think more, to be happy, to love each other, to find contentment. We push our limits and hold each other as we face the demons of our pasts. We push each other to be good parents. We push each other to remain connected as a married couple through the exhaustion and exhilaration of child rearing because one day soon, they will grown and we will live with each other alone again.
As D-Sir and s-me:
So y'all know Sir and I solidified more consistent roles a while ago (1 year 9 months ago - but whose counting?) As such, Sir most assuredly keeps pushing me sexually. I find it hard to believe that I have limits that yet can be pushed. Like I said, I'm seriously adventurous most of the time. Interestingly, as I thought about it, even as a sub, I believe I push him as well. I push him to embrace his sadism, as he was never extraordinarily sadistic and certainly it was periodic and not a long term feeling for him. I push him to explore his dominance. I push him to voice his fantasies and accept them. I push us as well. I push our D/s relationship and he pushes back. I think that's how we maintain - or try to maintain our balance.
We grow, our limits expanded
Our tree trunks and branches grown together
But growing in exquisite balance.